Why I fight for marriage equality as a non-gender wedding cake.

This past weekend Brisbane made history with its biggest same-sex marriage rally ever. We came we rallied, we marched, we stopped traffic and we made a lot of noise. The atmosphere was truly inspiring and really hit home. For me it just backed every reason why I fight for equality.

I have a nephew and niece who I adore and think the world of, but more importantly I want them to grow up in a country where it’s government does not discriminate on the basis of race, gender and sexuality. While we can look at the last one hundred or so years and see how change has been brought  through racial and gender rights. The last big wall of discrimination comes in the form of sexuality.

Anyone that saw me on Saturday would remember I was running around dressed as a giant non-gender wedding cake. On a few occasions I was asked why? So I’ve decided to explain my choice of costume here.

I believe activism comes in many different forms and one of those is art activism. Using art to bring awareness and make a point. In the past I’ve dressed as Glitter Jesus to raise the point that we should be preaching love not hate, I dressed as a dalmatian at another rally for the soul reason that LNP government’s changes to the civil unions bill equates same-sex relationships as that of registering your pet dog. Then there is my non-gender wedding cake.

I’ve been in love with a girl and I’ve been in love with a guy. The love I have had for these two special people was not based on the physical act of sex but the connection that I had with them. While both these relationships didn’t work out, the first was for the reason for the fact that I thought I was gay and the second was his inability to commit, I won’t deny what I experienced with both of them was love.  I believe love is like perfection and it comes in many different forms. It is also for this reason that I believe love has no gender and I wanted to create something that was all inclusive of the LGBTIQ community as a whole, and this how the non-gender wedding cake came about.

I don’t believe being gay is a life style choice, however partaking in aspects of the gay culture is. Now let me just add one thing here, some people will point out aspects of the gay culture and go well heterosexuals don’t do that. I urge you to take a closer look, both homosexuals and heterosexuals have more in common then most people realise.

I never chose to be gay, the only choice I made was to be me, and it just so happens that a huge part of me is attracted to the same-sex. I believe love has no gender. I also believe marriage is about the public admittance of consenting human beings under governmental law wanting to spend the rest of their life together.

If someone feels same-sex marriage is going to cheapen their own marriage, they really must ask themselves how is this so? Is their own marriage not strong enough that they base its validity on other’s? If you don’t like same-sex marriage, then don’t have one. Would you like it if someone was to take your right of marriage away? I don’t think so.

I will continue to fight for the equal rights of the LGBTIQ community for one reason. I believe the next generation needs to be brought up in a society where governments do not promote inequality on the basis of race, gender and sexuality. How many more young people have to kill themselves before the government stops and finally listens?

Some call me a gay activist, but at the core I’m fighting for the rights of everyone. I guess in a way I’m a humanitarian.

x Chad St. James


That awkward moment when you mistake someone for their twin brother.
My interview with radio program Fair Comment

Author: Chad St James

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  1. Some people have issues with my non-gender wedding cake. So this will provide some reasoning behind my motivation.

  2. Some people have issues with my non-gender wedding cake. So this will provide some reasoning behind my motivation.

  3. I could not agree more with that you saying love has no gender!

  4. I thought you looked smashing 🙂

  5. Well written and I think your costumes make all of us think .

  6. "If you don’t like same-sex marriage, then don’t have one." – I love this! I don't like fish, so I don't eat it. I'm not going to stop other people eating it. Equality is that simple. I'm stumped as to why we don't have it yet…. Well said Chad 🙂

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