I’m fat, a whore, infested pig, dick head, cunt, loser, wanker, ugly, old… Um I think the list is up to date.

bullyingI’ve found myself on the receiving end of some pretty harsh words recently. I do pride myself on the fact that I’m pretty sociable, and get along with most people, however there is that old saying “you can’t please everyone.” It’s even harder to please those you’ve never even met before. It’s a pretty funny story really. So recently I’ve become good friends with a guy, now in regards to the friendship, I’ve really got no complaints. We hang out, talk, and get along really well, you know everything that makes a good solid friendship. So what’s the problem?

This particular friend has a lot going for him. He’s pretty attractive, extremely talented (I’m yet to find something he’s not talented at), genuine and is really friendly. He’s the kind of guy you’d would take home to meet your parents. It’s because of all these admirable qualities that I feel sorry for him. I’ve seen my two best friends endure it on a daily basis and he isn’t much different… people just fall for them and insist on wanting to be with them. So why is this a bad thing? Well from what I’ve noticed, it’s very rare that they are seen as people but rather as things to be obtained and possessed. Some people just see them as trophies and will stop at nothing until they have won their prize.

Now this is where the problem comes into it, the people looking to obtain them are often very competitive, and are threatened by others very easily. Now I could go into detail of this whole saga, but it is enough to write a bloody novel about. So I’ll try summarise it all. They all seem to think something is going on with my friend and I to the point that it has become a topic of conversation amongst different people, the funny thing is, half these people that are talking I don’t even know personally. One of them went as far to add me on Facebook and give me a Spanish inquisition and even added one of my best mates on Facebook in hope to find out whatever it is that I wasn’t telling him. This particular guy is an ex of my friend and his obsession is bordering on psychotic. Now I’d like to say that was the only crazy guy my friend had to worry about, but alas it is not the case, there are others, all of who seem to think something is going on between my friend and I and have serious issues with me.

Over the past few weeks I’ve gotten some pretty harsh comments left on my blogs from someone who signs their name as anonymous, where they call me all the name under the sun and a whole bunch of other crazy shit. It’s kinda scary that someone is so bothered by a friendship that they have to actually dedicate so much of their time to sending me abuse. Oh and not just the oh you suck kinda comments. Here’s a few to give you an idea

“Stay away from (name removed) you’re an AIDS infested pig, he deserves better”

“You’re a fat cunt”

“You deserved to be fucked by a scout leader”

And the list goes on…

I’m more then aware that I’m average looking, I’m 29, I’m not rich and so on… but one thing I can proudly say is, I’ve at least got personality and confidence where I don’t have to send anonymous comments hiding behind a computer screen!

It’s strange back in 1999 when I graduated I thought that would be the last I’d have to deal with the high school mentality. I guess you can take the kid out of high school but in some cases you can’t take the high school out of the kid. I think the most funniest thing out of this entire situation is the fact that someone feels so threatened by my friendship. Insecure much???

I guess this whole experience has showed me that you can’t always please people, and there will people that you might never even meet who will have their own opinions of you. At the end of the day never base your self worth on people’s opinions of you, because they are just a manifestation of their own inner insecurities.

Fang Banger painted by The Pillowbook Girls.
I am standing in a club...

Author: Chad St James

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  1. This is a really good quote-

    “I guess this whole experience has showed me that you can’t always please people, and there will people that you might never even meet who will have their own opinions of you. At the end of the day never base your self worth on people’s opinions of you, because they are just a manifestation of their own inner insecurities.”

    It is so true, well said 🙂

  2. Oh cool, you know me, always up for inspiring 🙂

  3. Fully credited, of-course 🙂

  4. Don't take on board other people's opinions.I'm the most hated gay activist in Australia but at least my integrity is in tact.

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