“He’s fatter than you,” An issue weighing in on friendship.

an issue of weight

Recently I took quite a bit of offence to something that was said by a friend. While they may not have intended it to come across as an insult, it did take me by surprise and has really gotten under my skin. If someone says “He’s fatter than you” comparing someone else’s weight to you, how else would you be expected to interpret it?

While I did say something when it was said, they replied  with saying it wasn’t meant with malice. However I didn’t realise this so-called friend had such views on my figure.

Yes, I’m not the skinniest I’ve been in my life, and I’ve been taking steps to change that. But what really gets under my grill are people who often go to the gym constantly striving for a sense of what they consider to be perfection that they will never reach because they will never be content with the results they see in the mirror, yet these very people feel that its fine to comment on other people’s bodies, weight and their so-called flaws and imperfections.

I also take greater offence to these people who have had to endure people calling them names like “fat” and “ugly”, but because they have put in the hard yards and improved their bodies they feel they are justified and in the right to comment on other people. I’m sure  you remember what it was like, the pain you would feel when someone was commenting and judging you on your figure, don’t you? If you don’t, you really have to ask yourself, why?

Beauty is only skin deep. Skin ages over time. While you maybe looking better on the outside, I just want to remind you that it’s what is on the inside that really counts. Our bodies age, it’s inevitable. When your body has gone through its ageing process, it’s what’s on the inside that will be shining through. I only hope you’ve focussed on improving your inside as much as you have your outside, because it will be sad to see you end up being another one of those bitter lonely old people that no one will have the time of day for.

I’m 30 years old, I’ve struggled with my fair share of self loathing and eating disorders. I know what it’s like to look in the mirror and think of all the worse things one can think of about themselves so they can feel they can face the world. So yeah, I can proudly say I’m in touch with my flaws. So in finishing take this one bit of advice, be careful not to go throwing stones in glass houses. The last thing you want is it all collapsing down around you without anyone willing to give you a helping hand back up.


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Author: Chad St James

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